Before I turned 40, I was a bit anxious. What is in store for me in this decade? In my 20s, it was about adventure. In my 30s, it was about acceptance. In my 40s? I’m not so sure.
They say life begins at 40. However, one of my old friends who is 2 years older than me said that nothing much has changed since he turned 40. So what is this big hype about being forty and then some?
In one leadership training I attended, we were asked to create a timeline listing down our life and what our priorities were. We also listed our life expectancy. I wrote 70 years old. I was 43 at the time that I had the training. Comparing my priorities to the years left to my existence, I realized that I was running out of time. This made me more anxious at the time. What would I really want to achieve in 27 years?
Stephen Covey, a famous educator, and author said that one of the seven habits of highly effective people is for one not to prioritize what is on one’s schedule but to schedule one’s priorities. This was the answer that eluded me all along. I tried fulfilling my priorities all at once that I felt overwhelmed and burned out.
This year on my birthday, I promised myself to schedule my priorities and to achieve balance in my life. Being forty-something and what I will learn for the rest of this decade of my life is still a mystery. I am looking forward to it as all will be unraveled in the end as I tick off some things on my bucket list.